What Happened to My Sex Life? A Sex Therapist's Guide to Reclaiming Lost Desire, Connection, and Pleasure

By: Kate Balestrieri

Published by Experiment LLC, 2025

<p>When your interest in sex takes a dive, it can be frustrating, isolating, and scary. You might feel pressured by a partner to "get back to normal," or worry that you're broken, no longer able to connect authentically to your sexuality.</p> <p>You're not broken, and you will feel desire again.</p> <p>In What Happened to My Sex Life?, Dr. Kate Balestrieri--licensed sex therapist, founder of Modern Intimacy, and host of the podcast Get Naked with Dr. Kate--uncovers the twelve most common causes of a loss of libido. Then she shares what you can do to overcome them and reignite your passion.</p> <p>Sometimes the cause of a dip in desire is obvious: stress at work, a fight with your partner. But often, it's not so clear. Maybe you're struggling with shame, burnout, or feeling disconnected from your body. Or maybe you're dealing with libido-killers like a partner's entitlement, a stagnating long-term relationship, or feelings of objectification.</p> <p>Whatever the cause, once you know what's behind your lack of interest, you can address it. With Dr. Kate's compassionate guidance, you'll be empowered to begin asking yourself what you really want from sex, befriending your body, confronting your mental blocks, discovering and sharing your turn-ons, and renegotiating your relationships.</p> <p>Full of insightful analysis and practical advice, What Happened to My Sex Life? is your road map back to yourself, your sexuality, and your pleasure.</p>